The End

Divorce is NEVER The End...

So, why do those of us who become divorced think it is? Maybe it's because we become comfortable with what we have, Maybe because we're afraid of what's on the other side of that door...

Maybe we just like it here.

6 years ago... After my divorce,  if you asked me where I'd be right now, I'd never in a million years say HERE.

But, I am...and if this is what The End looks like, I love it!

Divorce Dazed is not the first divorce writing I've done, I had a column back at home (in Connecticut where I am from) and there I wrote about how I worked through the process. Divorce Dazed was born later, when I had the desire to share with others what I learned from it, how to laugh about it, and what to do after it. I've been blogging as a whole since October 2010  and at some point along the way, my ability to write and relate to others has grown into 2 more blogs, a parenting column in a magazine and now a business. 

At this point, my divorce has become one of the greatest blessings in my life... 
but on that note, it's also time for more change.

I've accomplished a lot since my divorce and now I'm working on some other goals, like focusing on my flourishing business and my parenting book... so my divorce blogging 'daze' will have to take a back seat to those.

There are 160 posts for you to choose from on Divorce Dazed, and if you're going through a divorce or preparing for one, use the search bar to find some priceless pieces of advice. And... if you're interested in following me on the rest of my journey of the broken, click here... because like I've always said:

 ~ LIFE GOES ON ~

BE INSPIRED BY THIS BLOG,  BY YOUR DIVORCE & 

BY YOUR FUTURE.

I am...

Let Go

 

If you follow the instructions,
it will feel like you are walking off a cliff...

Do it anyway, 

it's worth the ride.

Time Heals You Both (and Changes Who You Are)

There's an old saying:
 'time heals all wounds'...

 and it's true.

But, there's something else it does...

It changes people.

Divorce can leave a person feeling lost and not know who they are...

There's a delicate balance between finding you and creating the new you.

Here are Five Ways to Become Genuine, New Person After Divorce:

Do things you used to love

Try new things

Revisit old friends

Reconnect with family

Stay close to those you trust

Read books that support personal growth

Take a vacation (alone)

Start a journal

Forgive yourself

Celebrate life
Accept the past, look to the future

'Time cures sorrows and squabbles, because we all change and are no longer the same person.

Neither the offender nor the offended is the same.'

~ Blaise Pascal

Three Types of Divorcees

All people are in one of three categories:

1. They are just coming out of a storm.

2. They are right in the middle of a storm.

3. They are heading for a storm.

This is a quote by David Uth

It's a basic motivational quote,
but can easily be adapted to all the divorcees in the world.

Remember,

Regardless of where you're at in your divorce, 

the sun always comes back out after the storm...

Storm Passing by Donna Blackhall @ Fineartamerica.com

A Divorce Quote On The Pain Of Divorce (and 10 Healthy Ways to Recover From That Pain)

A divorce is like an amputation; you survive, but there's less of you. -Margaret Atwood

10 Ways to Really Heal After Divorce

How to Deal...During Divorce

Sometimes, when things are upside down, it's just better to admit they are,

than try to pretend they're not...

Check out this blog post to see:

How to Deal When Your Life is in Shambles

#4 is crucial....

Sharing a Helpful Post on Break-up Recovery

Need help healing?

Check out this blog post on How to Get Over A Breakup

Whether it's a divorce, or just a split...the heart takes it the same.

Time Goes By Too Slow After Divorce

I used to think that time was my enemy. 

Tick-tock, tick-tock, tick….tock.

The seconds, minutes and hours continuously counting down… pressuring me to make a decision, accomplish something or be somewhere. I was constantly in a race to get to where I wanted to be; literally and figuratively.

But, after my divorce, I noticed that time could also work in the opposite way as well.

When we are waiting in line for something, most of us feel that the time just doesn’t pass by quick enough... When we’re in pain, it always feels like the time will never pass...

One night, after my divorce, I felt triumphant, though still hopeless.

I had done it! I had divorced my husband. I had gone back to work after being a stay at home mom for two years. I had successfully made it through a twelve month legal battle and I was happy! 

So why was so uneasy?

Because, I felt like the clock of life was going too fast. I had no idea what was next...but that clock kept ticking. Going too slow to erase the pain, but too fast for me to catch up on life's plans.

That was over six years ago and to look back and think about it now seems silly to worry about today...

So, here I am; it is March of 2012 and it I realized now that time was never the enemy... always my friend...and a true gift. Time was a tool; patience and faith the key.

I'm right where I'm supposed to be, and although difficult, it's been a glorious journey. 

I was eager for results and too quickly wanted to arrive somewhere..

But I see that when we are patient, we give ourselves the necessary opportunities and experiences we require, to become who we are meant to be... as well as where we are meant to be…

Our destiny, if you will.

So, after your divorce, don't be pressured by the tick-tick-tock of the clock. Be thankful you have that extra time to heal, make choices,  change your mind, grow as a person, or fix a mistake.


Time really is on your side...

Time is a Gift, Use it Wisely

Be thankful that you have that extra time to say you’re sorry, change your mind, grow as a person or fix a mistake.

Forgiveness is For YOU

" Forgiveness is the way to true health and happiness."  - Gerald Jampolsky