Will Divorce Dazed Continue??

 Last Week....
I wrote about getting re-married and how it has prompted  people to approach me regarding the continuation of this blog.....

The #1 Question I Was Asked:
'Should you still be writing a divorce blog, even though you're getting re-married...?'

 

I decided to ask readers to share their thoughts with me...

The responses have been interesting.

Some of the answers I received:

"No. Why would you want to continue to live in the past?"

"Well you aren't divorced anymore, so I'm not really sure you can relate."

"What would you teach people who are divorced now that you're married again?"

"I'm not sure it matters, you've been divorced before so I guess you can still write about it."

As much as I wish it were not true...I am divorced. I have been for five years.. 

It will always be part of my past life experiences. Society (most of it anyways) will always view me as 'divorced'...It even says so on my new marriage certificate...The fact that I was divorced will never change, and I can't pretend it didn't happen. 

I've had a fair share of turbulence after my divorce and and as long as divorce is still legal, and people are still imperfect, divorces will continue to happen and we will all require emotional support to heal and move on.

I've taken every one's questions and comments into consideration and here are some of my thoughts:

Some of you are right, I do have to remember about the past to write Divorce Dazed. Though, if I'm stuck remembering it anyhow, but I'm healthier in the present...why not use the good stuff to help others get to the same place....?

I agree also, I have a new marriage to think about. Though a reminder,  divorce does not end because a new marriage begins. It's not over after the ink dries in court on D. Day and doesn't disappear with a new relationship. (But I can say that rethinking my previous marriage often helps me in my new marriage.)

So, I don't actually consider blogging about divorce 'living in the past'..I consider it contributing positively to the future.

Life after divorce is a renewing process...a continuing learning experience, and has a lot more to do with ourselves as people, than our previous marriages and 'X' spouses.

Throughout the beginning stages of my divorce, even until now, I've always felt that sound, healthy, divorce  advice is scarce ...and I would like to think  Divorce Dazed offers what the web is lacking when it comes to guiding divorcee's to success. (Which is why I started blogging D.D.)

Bottom line? I am not letting re-marriage stop me from sharing with others what I went through and how I learned from it....and eventually how it changed my life for the better.

So, Yes, I will still be writing Divorce Dazed and I hope you will continue to join me!

Truly,

Amber

Re-married, writing about Divorce...(Opinions wanted)

Recently the question has come up, 'Will you still write your Divorce Dazed blog?'

and
'Can you still write a divorce blog since you'll be married?'

Those are two very good questions.

Should I still be writing a divorce blog, even though I am re-married...?

What do you think?

Email me or leave a COMMENT.

To be continued...

Do Not Disturb

Door hanger by Lillian Rose

This week we are on our honeymoon.
As much time as I spend writing blogs and working on my columns and doing sidework for my business, I thought I would be taking some work with me...

Though my new husband had other ideas.

During my first marriage I don't think I felt I could spend time away from the kids...I didn't always get excited about going away or getting a sitter to go on dates with my hubby.

And because I feel that this is my chance to do better in my second marriage, than I did in my first, I will be hanging up the computer for a few days to celebrate my husband and I.

What would you do (or have you done) differently in a romantic relationship after your divorce?