Do……
Love Yourself…
- Find friends you can trust
- Spend time with positive family members in groups or at functions (it might feel strange at first since you have been used to attending with your X but you need to do this right away)
- Read about divorce (whether a book or online, reading several different styles of divorce material helps you to heal-as long as it’s not negative)
- Think positive
- Plan for the future (one of the main things that will help you move on)
- Have faith (in yourself, your future, a higher power-it will get you through)
- Seek personal growth (find something you are weak at and work on bettering it-this will help you gain self esteem)
Then,Love Yourself…
- Understand that it takes years to fully recover from a divorce- so have patience
- Know today is not forever
- Forgive (yourself and your X)
- Join a group (a new hobby, an old hobby or a divorce group)
- Cry. If you are a man and choose not to cry (or cannot) that is fine, but understand that you should still use this time to mourn (your divorce is relatable to a death-and death deserves some emotion- mourning it is part of the healing process)
- Date (yes you should date-though not right away-rebound WILL happen -so give yourself about 6-months of the above list before you date-then do yourself another favor, DON'T 'fall' for the first person you date...Use dating as a new way to learn about yourself)
Now,Love Yourself More.
Truly,
Amber
