Fun Friday: Trash It!

NO! Not your 'X's car! 

That's just a waste of your time, and your 'X' will know it was you anyway.

Trash something you both shared.

Why in the world do I suggest this, and then act like it's a good thing? 

Because, I just trashed something else that was ours back when my 'X' and I were married and it felt fabulous!

Believe it or not, after almost seven years of being separated, I just finally threw away my cordless phone.

Why didn't I throw it away sooner? I'm not sure, I guess I didn't realize I still had it!

That makes me laugh out loud! 

What's even more funny, is that the old numbers of locals (back then it was another state!) were still saved in memory!

Want to have a Fun Friday?

 Share with me what you threw out of your's when you were married

 and 

felt good while doing! 

(No stories about Wedding Dresses or Rings please-those make me sad.)

How to Deal...During Divorce

Sometimes, when things are upside down, it's just better to admit they are,

than try to pretend they're not...

Check out this blog post to see:

How to Deal When Your Life is in Shambles

#4 is crucial....

Sharing a Helpful Post on Break-up Recovery

Need help healing?

Check out this blog post on How to Get Over A Breakup

Whether it's a divorce, or just a split...the heart takes it the same.

The Best Divorce is....Not What You Expect

“The worst reconciliation is better than the best divorce”

-Miguel de Cervantes Saavedra

Time Goes By Too Slow After Divorce

I used to think that time was my enemy. 

Tick-tock, tick-tock, tick….tock.

The seconds, minutes and hours continuously counting down… pressuring me to make a decision, accomplish something or be somewhere. I was constantly in a race to get to where I wanted to be; literally and figuratively.

But, after my divorce, I noticed that time could also work in the opposite way as well.

When we are waiting in line for something, most of us feel that the time just doesn’t pass by quick enough... When we’re in pain, it always feels like the time will never pass...

One night, after my divorce, I felt triumphant, though still hopeless.

I had done it! I had divorced my husband. I had gone back to work after being a stay at home mom for two years. I had successfully made it through a twelve month legal battle and I was happy! 

So why was so uneasy?

Because, I felt like the clock of life was going too fast. I had no idea what was next...but that clock kept ticking. Going too slow to erase the pain, but too fast for me to catch up on life's plans.

That was over six years ago and to look back and think about it now seems silly to worry about today...

So, here I am; it is March of 2012 and it I realized now that time was never the enemy... always my friend...and a true gift. Time was a tool; patience and faith the key.

I'm right where I'm supposed to be, and although difficult, it's been a glorious journey. 

I was eager for results and too quickly wanted to arrive somewhere..

But I see that when we are patient, we give ourselves the necessary opportunities and experiences we require, to become who we are meant to be... as well as where we are meant to be…

Our destiny, if you will.

So, after your divorce, don't be pressured by the tick-tick-tock of the clock. Be thankful you have that extra time to heal, make choices,  change your mind, grow as a person, or fix a mistake.


Time really is on your side...

Time is a Gift, Use it Wisely

Be thankful that you have that extra time to say you’re sorry, change your mind, grow as a person or fix a mistake.

Don't Let Your 'X' Steal This From You

Going through a divorce can leave you feeling robbed.
Whether it's stuff in the house, money in the bank, or time with the kids which was split in half or worse, split unevenly....it can leave us thinking we got the crappy end of the stick.

The deal is, we get attorney's to divide those things fairly, but it doesn't always turn out that way.

It is what it is sometimes and we cannot control it.

Though there is something in which we do have control over....and that is our Faith.

Faith is a strong power, and if you don't have it, life can be bleak; getting through tough times can seem impossible...and our attitude: hopeless.

At one point, I lost faith. I had no hope, no positive outlook and I right before one of the best outcomes of my life, I was ready to give up everything I ever wanted and deserved.

I allowed my 'X' to rob me of my freedom of life.
I let him steal my joy....
I gave up control of my heart, my drive and my belief.

Don't let this happen to you.

Faith is what makes us go on. Faith is what makes us get back up when we are pushed down.
Faith is what keeps us glued together and wake up tomorrow with new focus and hope.

During our divorce, just like during our marriage, my 'X' didn't steal anything.....

If I wanted Faith, I should have stepped up, and stood up, for it...

I stand here as a testament today; if you don't have Faith, it's not because someone (namely your 'X') stole it from you, it's because you let it go.

Be strong, have hope, and believe in a better omorrow.... for soon you will be a stronger you....

Nothing can stand in your way....only if you let it....

During or After Divorce, How Do You Keep Your Faith?

Fun Friday: Funny Divorce Quotes

TIS' THE SEASON...
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Calvin and Hobbes on Divorce

Help is On the Way...

During Divorce...

the last thing we want is someone tapping at our door, feeling sorry for us,

trying to make us feel better, or setting us up on a date...

So... 

Read this to see how to be a great friend when someone you know is going through tough times...

like divorce.

Fun Friday: He Say's I'm a B*#@!

But...

BEHIND EVERY BITCH IS A MAN THAT MADE HER THAT

 WAY

One of the Best Informational Divorce Sites

This has got to be one of the best Divorce Information sites I've come across (and there are a lot of them out there).

I like this one because it is positive, fair, honest, helpful and compassionate and deals with every aspect from paperwork to emotions, behavior to court, custody to suggested local legal counsel and all by state.

This website and it's resources support the whole family and both spouses, it's not bias to one or the other. It even offers advice on things regarding before and after divorce.

If you are in need of divorce resources and advice, you need to visit DivorceNet.com. 

A Teen Novel, Inspired by Divorce?

My teen came to me this week and shared a book she was reading.

Lauren Olivedr's, Delirium.

Yep, sounds like love...

As she told me the premise of the book, I was shocked.

It's about how everyone has to get a 'shot' before they fall in love; to prevent them from doing so!

And before this one girl can get the shot, (yep-you romantic-hopeful's guessed it), she falls...

Well, the story has twists and turns...and the ending nearly crushed my daughter!

(Apparently it's a good book.) It reminded me of when I was getting divorced, I thought that love and marriage were an epidemic to stay away from....

Read the book, to see how it ends....

Don't Take it From Me...

This guys tells it like it is about divorce.

One I Couldn't Resist!